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You know that feeling of complete overwhelm and total chaos that comes with raising a family, household management and maintaining a marriage?
What if you’re also struggling with a mental health issue?
In this post, Reta Jayne from ConfidenceandChaos.com outlines exactly what she did to get her home and her life under control. And as an unexpected bonus, the big impact those changes had on her mental health.
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Here is what Reta had to say…
Do you feel overwhelmed with your home & your life? And — dare I even say it?! — do you feel like a failure? Or maybe life is just plain chaotic & you need more of a sense of control.
Then add in mental illness & magnify all the above. Either way, I am talking to you if you think you might be a lost cause on the domestic front, but still secretly are hoping for a miracle. You can learn how to conquer household management when you have mental health issues.
I am no expert in household management.
Faaaaaaar from it. However, I have learned several things over the past few months. I was thoroughly overwhelmed & I did feel like a failure. (Yes. I am saying it! You don't have to, but I am.) I was caught in a rut, a seemingly never-ending circle.
I was at home with my daughter. My husband worked full-time. My grandmother had moved in with us a little over a year before & was just diagnosed with cancer. On top of all of that, I was an online college student, but barely getting by with my studies.
Let's just put it this way: I didn't feel accomplished at anything I was doing. PLUS, my house was a mess & we were rummaging for clothes on top of it all.
Something had to give.
But I clicked through to purchase before I even thought about it. I knew I needed it! Without question, I definitely needed SOMETHING! I couldn't keep on the path I was on.
I have struggled with bipolar disorder & the depression that goes along with it for years.
Not only did I feel like a hot mess, I really was a hot mess — or at least I thought I was. It's like a roller-coaster ride I can never get off! BUT anyone who battles with bipolar disorder can tell you, it is like driving a car with a manual transmission when everyone else gets to drive an automatic: I simply must learn when to shift.
So, Hot Mess to Home Success has been a FABULOUS tool for me to keep my overwhelm at bay & help me learn to shift when necessary.
Let me explain.
When I got the course, I dove right in. Because of my mental illness, I knew I could easily get tunnel vision or overwhelmed by it; there was an equal chance of either! (Joy! Right?) So, I went into the course with the mentality that I was there for the knowledge. I needed to learn how to conquer overwhelm and household management — especially because of my mental health issues.
If you are one of the thousands of people who were never taught the basic skills needed to take care of your home and family, the Hot Mess to Home Success program was designed to help you get your home (and your life) in order so you can spend your time doing the things you love.
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I made sure I kept an open mind.
There were many prompts to do the program in order, which I can see was very sound advice. However, that wasn't always prudent for me. And that's okay.
I made sure I knew the reasoning behind each step, but if something thoroughly overwhelmed me or was not practical for me in that precise moment, I didn't beat up on myself over it.
Case in point, I read but didn't really implement most of the meal prep portions of the course right away. I had a very basic process in place already. And, though I want to improve, I really needed to get my house under control more. I needed that impact.
The biggest impact of this course has been loading the dishwasher & having my counters clear & clean every night AND doing ONE load of laundry a day. In the course, Rosemarie even encourages us to NOT do more than the ONE load of laundry, so we DON'T overwhelm ourselves!
SO helpful! I totally would have burnt out or wound up with piles all around again!
Rosemarie has a way of taking this simple — but NOT EASY — domestic task & making it seem manageable.
I even catch myself unloading the dishwasher while breakfast cooks on the stove or grabbing laundry to load before heading out of the house. Without even thinking about it sometimes, I find myself doing these things! I never would have thought I could say that about myself before! It's a real confidence booster!
This isn't to say I now am a domestic goddess or something!
The point is, when I do get behind now, it is SO MUCH EASIER to recover from by having ONE (what I am calling) “REBOOT” day. I take a day to fold all the clean laundry & put it away & run the dishwasher a few times to get “caught up” again.
It is a night & day difference!
My mental health is SO much better too!! I even rewarded my good streaks of consistent behavior by hiring some ladies to come for ONE hour every couple of weeks to tackle my worst areas of my home that stress me the most.
They do that while I do something else productive (other housework or schoolwork or blog work) & it turns into a REALLY productive day! That has been a TREMENDOUS help & WELL worth the investment!
I never would have gotten over this hurdle without Rosemarie's course.
Or, at least, it would have taken me MUCH longer to make this kind of progress on my own. There is something VERY freeing to have someone else just line it all out for you.
So, if you've struggled as I have struggled, battling household management and overwhelm with your home, especially if you also deal with mental health issues as well — go as slow or as fast as you feel able. But, just dive in! You can learn how to conquer domestic overwhelm when you have mental health issues!
Don't just think about it; actually, do it.
Follow the best you can with what you have. You can always go back through it again later, right? Done is better than perfect, so go forth & DO. Believe you can & it will happen! You really deserve it!
Reta Jayne runs Confidence & Chaos, a blog & business dedicated to building confidence & learning to embrace life’s chaos. She is a thirty-something wife & mama passionate about mental health, Sweet Minerals & direct sales, blogging, & her Christian faith. You are welcome to come hang out at http://confidenceandchaos.com. No matter what, always know how VALUABLE & uniquely BEAUTIFUL you are. <3